PARENTING, LIKE PHYSICAL LIFE, IS AN INSIDE OUT PROCESS
Having been a parent for more than 40 years, I have done a lot of thinking about being a parent. I have been happy with my self and my decisions, and have also looked back with regrets for opportunities missed. My sons and I ‘left’ home at the same time, which is not the norm. We live in different time zones, and …
OUR CONNECTION IS STRONG.
Their births were profound learning experiences for me. As I have healed and taken more and more responsibility for myself, I realise that my sons have as well. We ‘grew up’ together, and they are my dear friends as well as biological family. Our true love sustains me, and I know that they feel the same.
One thing I have learned from my sons is that parenting, like physical life, is an inside out process. They have parented me since their births. I have become who I am as a result of their unconditional love in my life. As soon as I acknowledged their love for me, life made more sense. It is a pleasure to know them, my greatest teachers in this lifetime.
When the word Parent is printed or spoken we immediately think of our own parents or of ourselves, if we have children. Each of us is a reflection of our parents, whether we appreciate that or not. We look like them, and we make choices based on what we have learned from them. Some of the choices are life enhancing and others not. It is possible to explore those primal relationships and change the behaviour, physical or emotional, that we want to change. That is evolution. It is possible to honour the relationship.
I INVITE YOU INTO A WIDER CONTEXT FOR PARENT.
Our precious Mother Earth gave birth to humans many thousands of years ago. We came from Her and evolved to our present state of Being. She has given in abundance. We all survive together, as one. Along the way we seem to have forgotten our origins and have been treating Mother Earth as though She is somehow separate from us. We have evolved a consciousness of ‘I am alone and separate’ that has resulted in our misuse of the resources of the Mother.
The consciousness of alone and separate has been engendered by our birthing practices, mainly the abrupt separation of baby from Mother. Instead of consciously preparing women from childhood for an empowering experience, well meaning people have tried to make birth easier for Mother with newly developed drugs and interventions.
In the ‘trying’ women have been disempowered and disassociated from the possibility of an ecstatic experience and a relationship with Life that is free of the fear of pain and struggle and separation.
When the transition from inside to outside is experienced in the consciousness of connection and ‘doing this together’, we create a new context for learning and being able to respond to Life without fear.
When we acknowledge that everyone, including the emerging Human Being, is wholly aware and engaged in the process, Mother knows that she is not alone and so does her baby.
When birth is supported by a consciousness of ‘Your body is safe’, ‘it is safe to feel all of your feelings’, ‘Yes!’ ‘I/we can do this’, ‘Thank you for choosing to be here with all of us’, everyone is empowered and free to enjoy ever expanding relationship with life in all its forms. I think of this as individuation not separation.
When we are honoured as conscious before, during, and after birth, we learn to honour all of our Parents.
WE ARE CONSCIOUSNESS THAT CO-CREATES!
We cause an effect beyond the realm of our awareness in the present and for generations to come. We are each responsible for our choices and our actions. As we evolve in expanded awareness of connection, of Being One with ALL that lives, we must acknowledge that happiness is not an everyday passing mood.
Happiness is the deep sense of satisfaction and joy that comes from living in balance and harmony with ALL the parts of our selves and our environment. Connection and relationship are one and the same.
When you think of Parent, do you think of LOVE?
Were you acknowledged as ‘One Who Loves’ at your birth?
Are you the best parent you can possibly be to yourself?
Do you respond to your self with love and compassion in all situations?
Do you listen to yourself first?
Our children will reflect to us the unresolved issues that are deep within us. We either parent the way our parents did, or we can explore, develop, heal, and evolve in order to better parent our selves, our children, our friends and neighbours, And our Precious Planet Earth.
You are invited to comment below, your thoughts are precious to me.
BLESSINGS, Binnie, South Carolina October, 2015
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